Sometimes being a divorcee seems so cliche. I remember when the book The Starter Marriage came out. I scoffed at the phenomenon, feeling superior to all those women who bailed on their marriages. I would never make the wrong choice. I would never leave a marriage. Marriage is forever--ironically, something I believe even more today than then day of my first marriage, when I walked down the aisle fulling knowing that it was the wrong thing to do. A $70,000 mistake that horrifies me and haunts me to this day (though at the time, I felt perfectly justified in spending it and pretty much refused to calculate that total). Of course, my parents--like all parents in this situation--offered me $30,000 to elope (as you can tell my that sum, I've never been very good at budgeting). Which I would gladly do if given the option today. But instead, I spent lavishly, trying to please others, to fulfill society's expectations, to do anything I could to mask my hesitation and unhappiness.
I honestly think a marriage's success is the exact inverse of the money spent on it. Give me a cute new dress, a couple of flowers and a judge--I don't need those trappings of success or wealth to have a blissful wedding day or successful marriage. My mistake was an expensive one, and a lesson in learning what is of true and ultimate worth--faith, family, integrity, honesty, openness, love and humility.
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